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thesis Point Four


Divorce, Broken Homes and Dysfunctional Families

Statistics show the divorce rate is higher among Evangelicals than outside the mainstream church. Shouldn't the divorce rate be lower among professing Christians than those who do not profess Christ as their Lord and Savior?

I believe divorce is the ultimate act of unforgiveness towards their spouse. Jesus said if we cannot forgive others, He cannot forgive us.

See what Jesus says in Matthew 6:14-15...

"Your heavenly Father will forgive you if you forgive those who sin against you; but if you refuse to forgive them, HE WILL NOT FORGIVE YOU."

Now read His parable in Matthew 18:23-35 to prove my point. Then Peter came to Jesus and asked,

“Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times?” Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy seven times seven. Therefore, the kingdom of heaven is like a king who wanted to settle accounts with his servants. As he began the settlement, a man who owed him ten thousand bags of gold was brought to him. Since he was not able to pay, the master ordered that he and his wife and his children and all that he had be sold to repay the debt. “At this the servant fell on his knees before him. ‘Be patient with me,’ he begged, ‘and I will pay back everything.’ The servant’s master took pity on him, canceled the debt and let him go. “But when that servant went out, he found one of his fellow servants who owed him a hundred silver coins. He grabbed him and began to choke him. ‘Pay back what you owe me!’ he demanded.” “His fellow servant fell to his knees and begged him, ‘Be patient with me, and I will pay it back.’ “But he refused. Instead, he went off and had the man thrown into prison until he could pay the debt. When the other servants saw what had happened, they were outraged and went and told their master everything that had happened. “Then the master called the servant in. ‘You wicked servant,’ he said, ‘I canceled all that debt of yours because you begged me to. Shouldn’t you have had mercy on your fellow servant just as I had on you?’ In anger his master handed him over to the jailers to be tortured, until he should pay back all he owed. "THIS IS HOW MY HEAVENLY FATHER WILL TREAT EACH OF YOU UNLESS YOU FORGIVE YOUR BROTHER OR SISTER FROM YOUR HEART.”

In the Lord's Prayer it says, "Forgive our sins as we forgive the sins of others".

Jesus also said in Matthew 19:6. "What God has put together (meaning marriage) let no man separate.” 

The prophet Malachi says God hates divorce. If we really love God, we would not do anything He hates, would we?

1 John 5:3 says, "For this is the love of God, that we keep His commandments".

Jesus said, "if you love me, keep my commandments."

Please take note of this alarming statistic...

70% of all divorces are initiated and filed by women in our country today.

I believe it is much higher in Central Florida from my own personal experience and observations. My mom divorced my Dad, my sister Nancy divorced her husband, my sister Susan divorced her husband. My first wife divorced me. I divorced my second wife because we never consummated our marriage. So in God's eyes we were never married to begin with. I would have never divorced her if we had consummated our marriage. Not to mention all my personal friends who had their wives divorce them. I can't think of any of my guy friends where they initiated the divorce. I can only think of a few who decided not to fight it out in court and mutually agreed to end their marriage without any legal consequences. Think for a moment of all your personal family members and friends who have divorced. Who initiated the divorce? Do the math. Is it more than 70% of the women?

Divorce attorneys know that women make up over 70% of their legal fees and this is the main reason they have rigged the Family Law Legal System in women's favor. There is no fair and equitable justice when settling divorce cases anymore. Judges in many cases will side with the woman's testimony against her husband even though there are no witnesses to support her accusations. Judges are ex-attorneys so they "take care of"  the attorney's litigating each case. Judge Shopping is an example of these back door deals? In the Bible, women were not permitted to divorce their husbands according to Jewish law. Isn't that interesting?  “Money Talks” as was obvious in the O.J. Simpson Trial.


Doesn’t it make sense now WHY Paul instructed the local church to settle their legal disputes within the confines of their local body of committed followers of Jesus?

The Apostle Paul and I do not recommend men get legally married today because of all the misguided corruption that exists in the mainstream church which now includes Family Law and how it unfairly discriminates against men in the vast majority of divorce cases. We are seeing more and more men putting off marriage as a result of this corruption. More and more men are choosing to cohabitate rather than commit to all the legalities of a marriage license that allow judges to penalize them in favor of women when settling divorce cases. I believe this is wise because it is not illegal to cohabitate according to civil law. Don't forget Isaac married Rebecca without a wedding ceremony and obtaining a marriage license so we know he did not break any of God's laws.

Sexual intercourse constitutes marriage in God’s eyes. Not a marriage license.

Remember? We are no longer bound by the old covenant which was the law of the Jewish nation as stated in the Old Testament and Talmud. The law is written on our hearts when we come to know Jesus and what He teaches us in His word. In other words, let our conscience be our guide when navigating through all the corrupt legalities that divorce attorneys and judges have written into Family Law. Please do not be naive when evaluating the divorce epidemic that has destroyed marriage and unity among members of the Body of Christ. We can no longer be gentle as a dove in our approach in solving this fatal problem. Like President Trump, it's time to be shrewd as snakes because that's what feminism is - a very venomous snake. Being shrewd as a snake is a mindset that both of my wives never understood and continued faulting me for my own shrewdness when dealing with snakes. This is why I believe it is wise to keep ourselves out of striking distance from today’s feminist women. Do you agree?

My views on feminism is the main reason a certain controlling group of women at First Baptist Church (now Crosslife) in Oviedo hate me. They slandered me with much malicious gossip that has ruined my reputation in the local church and community. My reputation score on MyLife.com is poor because of this slanderous group of feminist women. How bad was Jesus’ reputation? It was SO BAD THEY MURDERED HIM because of it. All throughout history prophets have been murdered for the truths they spoke.

I know why Jesus and John the Baptist called people like this "Snakes". It's the same kind of prejudicial hatred certain people have towards our President.

I personally believe corruption in family law is a prime instigating factor that contributes to the high divorce rate and destruction of the family nucleus today. What are your thoughts?

Have you heard the fake news media or the mainstream church talk about feminism as being the main reason for the destruction of the family nucleus? If they did, you can bet the house they would be accused of misogyny by the feminists who control the narrative when it comes to the divorce epidemic in our country today. The spirit of Jezebel resents criticism. Have you ever met a feminist who receives constructive criticism from a man? None of my former wives and three sisters ever received constructive criticism from me. My three daughters use to respectfully obey my instruction until my wife, Jan, undermined my authority in their minds. When it comes to criticism, feminist women can dish it out but they can't take it in return. If you do criticize a feminist, they will play the gender card and accuse you of misogyny in their defense. It's perplexing none of my former women employees were ever disobedient or disrespectful to me when following company policy. Maybe they knew I would fire them if they did...isn't this called accountability?

See what King Solomon says about this.

All of these joker cards (victim, gender, race, etc.) got their trump power because of identity politics which is a political ploy created by liberal elites who are aligned with the anti-Christ to promote their self serving agenda to gain power over those they are supposed to serve as their elected officials.


Let me tell you about my experience with two of my three sisters after my mom died. My mom designated me to be the executor of her estate. My mom showed me where she kept all her books, important documents and her banking information. I had full authorization to sign her name.

Shortly after she died, I went in her office to start the process of settling her estate. Two of my sisters, Jennie and Susan, were there at the time. The first thing I looked at was her journal. Let me tell you about the last thing mom wrote in her journal. My mom admitted SHE WAS WRONG in divorcing my dad. I have always taken the stance that mom was wrong in divorcing our dad and quoted God’s Word as proof of this. My three sisters agreed with my mom on divorcing our dad. My mom and three sisters were well aware of my stance and greatly resented me for it. I called my two sisters, Jennie and Susan, to look at what mom wrote. As I recall, they did not comment on what mom wrote.


The following morning, I went to her house to work on her books and making sure all her bills are being paid. What did I find? All her books, important documents, banking info and her journal were missing. My sisters took it away from me to work on. I told my cousin, Charlie Gray, who was responsible for establishing her trust and will that my sisters were undermining my designated role in fulfilling mom’s requirements as stipulated in her will. Charlie did nothing to resolve this issue. My sisters had convinced him that I am mentally incompetent and not capable of executing her will to everyone’s satisfaction. They forget the fact that I ran my own million dollar company and they think I can't manage mom’s estate? How insane is this? 

I was thrilled to have the honor of being the executor of mom's estate and looked forward to satisfying her will for us as her children. This responsibility would have been great for my psychological health because it would help get my mind off the divorce and loss of my family. I was forced to resign my position to mom’s second choice which is my youngest sister, Susan. Her husband, John Costello, is the one who closed out mom’s estate, not Susan the one mom had appointed. I walked away to have nothing to do with my sisters ever again. You can walk in shit for so long until you have to leave the stench of it, right?

Here is more evidence of the demonic spirit of feminism...


My sisters know mom emphatically said on her death bed, "please take care of Tom". My mom knew how hurt and depressed I was over my wife, Jan, divorcing me. The most horrific fact about all this is – my sisters did not honor mom’s wishes. The only thing they cared about is getting what they wanted in mom's will.


Here is another true story. My Dad’s wife, Vicky, ran out on my dad and it was heard all over town that she was sleeping with other men over a seven-year period. As my dad got older, he needed more assistance in helping with various needs because of his physical and mental health was starting to fail. I was the only one in our family who took the time and effort to help him with his failing health. I lived about a 30-minute drive to his house to carry out this task. These visits started to become more frequent and time consuming.

I owned a duplex in in Winter Park and thought that it would be a great idea if dad sold or rented out his town home in Altamonte Springs and move into my adjoining duplex so I would no longer have to spend so much time and gas in helping him with his personal needs. He refused to compromise with me so I decided to rent my home and move in with him to save time and expense for travel. My dad’s wife, Vicky, got wind of this and convinced him that I was moving in to take advantage of him financially.

When I found out it is was Vicky who changed his mind about me moving in with him, I was outraged! In some sense I was very thankful because she now took responsibility for his care and moved back in with my dad after seven years being AWOL. I tried to convince my dad that this was a huge mistake on his part, but he did not listen to me. He was believing the lies Vicky had told him about me. I chose to have no more contact with my dad after this. He is going to have to suffer the consequences of what I warned him about.

It was not long after this I got a call from my brother-in-law Fred that dad was in hospice on his death bed. I went to go visit him and found out he was totally unaware that Vicky placed him in hospice to die. Vicky had lied to him about him being terminally ill. When I told dad about this, Vicky became angry because I let the cat out of bag. The only reason Vicky came back on the scene is because she wanted his estate when he died. Her selfish move did not benefit her much because she died shortly there after at the age of 65. My dad  died at the age of 85. I received nothing from dad's estate except the flag that draped his coffin. I have no idea what Vicky did with his wealth and personal possessions. I sure would like to have all his pictures as a youth and other memorabilia of interest. Remember I am my dad's only son who was deprived of my rightful inheritance as is customary in Christian-Judaeo tradition.  


Satan is using women to undermine oneness in marriage and the church today. Just like he deceived Eve that led to our fall from God's Grace and terminated our intimate relationship with Him as our Heavenly Father.

It is imperative that we fully understand just how seductive and destructive the demonic spirit of feminism is to the well being of the Body of Christ and family nucleus. Feminism is the "elephant in the room" that no church leader wants to talk about.

I do not know of a demonic force that is more powerful and divisive. Do you?

Can't you see by now how all the women closest to me caused so many travesties of justice in my life?

Bottom line: We are no longer a FAMILY as a Nation. I put FULL BLAME on the demonic spirit of feminism for this atrocity and God will too!


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